Ian Kerner
Ian Kerner is an American sex counselor, practitioner of psychotherapy, and author on pleasuring sex partners. He works in sex therapy and couples therapy.
Early life and education
Kerner was born and raised in New York City, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their family dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar. He is also Jewish.Career
Kerner was a playwright before he was a sex therapist. He practices in New York. He wrote for CNN as a health columnist, and for Men's Health.In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Kerner is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, and has sat on AASECT's board of directors.
Criticism
Of She Comes First, Sam Hilts wrote in her Feministing piece that "his book quickly reduces all women to a single biological and psychological tabula rosa ready for the male partner to rewrite." Further, Hilts writes:In Slate (magazine), Daniel Chiasson's critical review titled The Murkey Aims of She Comes First noted "there’s something more repugnant than reading this book. The most repulsive act imaginable, in a strictly sexual sense, is to have written it." Chiasson describes "the story of a self-awakening. Dr. Kerner started life as a premature ejaculator, he tells us, with all the self-control of a tube of toothpaste being run over by a Mack truck." More:
Samhita Mukhopadhyay's Outdated: Why Dating is Ruining Your Love Life argues:
For Mukhopadhyay, Kerner absolves men from socially enforcing among themselves a code of chivalry that acknowledges and respects women's sexual autonomy. Quite contrary, Kerner speaks of "women should play by certain 'rules' or withhold sex", whereas men are held to no such standard.