El Malei Rachamim
"El Malei Rachamim" is a Jewish prayer for the soul of a person who has died, usually recited at the graveside during the burial service and at memorial services during the year.
Place in the Liturgy
In the Eastern Ashkenazi liturgy, the prayer is usually chanted by a chazzan for the ascension of the souls of the dead on the following occasions: during the funeral; at an unveiling of the tombstone; Yizkor service on the four of the Jewish festivals, Yom Kippur, Shemini Atzeret, and the last day of Pesach and Shavuot; on the Yahrzeit on a day when there is public reading from the Torah, or the closest date before the Yahrzeit; and on other occasions on which the memory of the dead is recalled. In the Western Ashkenazi liturgy, this prayer is usually not recited, although it has been adopted on various occasions in certain Western Ashkenazic communities.In the Sephardi liturgy, a similar prayer called Hashkavah is recited by the reader of the Torah on Mondays and Thursdays.
The recitation of the prayer in both Ashkenazi and Sephardi liturgies is usually accompanied by pledges for the donation of charity in memory of the deceased.
Wording of the Prayer
The prayer has a fixed structure, composed of a specific text in which is incorporated the deceased's name, or a description of the deceased.Version for a deceased individual
The text of the mourner's prayer varies slightly depending on the gender of the one for whom is said.If the mourner's prayer is recited on behalf of a woman, the following text is recited:
If the mourner's prayer is recited on behalf of a man, the following text is recited:
The prayer refers to a charitable pledge by the person saying it, and thus one should give charity