Non-penetrative sex


Non-penetrative sex or outercourse is sexual activity that usually does not include sexual penetration, but some forms, particularly when termed outercourse, include penetrative aspects, that may result from forms of fingering or oral sex. It generally excludes the penetrative aspects of vaginal, anal, or oral sex, but includes various forms of sexual and non-sexual activity, such as [|frottage], manual sex, mutual masturbation, kissing, or hugging.
People engage in non-penetrative sex for a variety of reasons, including as a form of foreplay or as a primary or preferred sexual act. Heterosexual couples may engage in non-penetrative sex as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, to preserve virginity, or as a type of birth control. Same-sex couples may also engage in non-penetrative sex to preserve virginity, with gay males using it as an alternative to anal penetration.
Although sexually transmitted infections such as herpes, HPV, and pubic lice can be transmitted through non-penetrative genital-genital or genital-body sexual activity, non-penetrative sex may be used as a form of safer sex because it is less likely that body fluids will be exchanged during the activities, especially with regard to aspects that are exclusively non-penetrative.

Definitions and practices

General

While non-penetrative sex is usually defined as excluding sexual penetration, some non-penetrative sex acts can have both non-penetrative and penetrative components and may therefore still be categorized as non-penetrative sex. Oral sex, for example, which can include oral caress of the genitalia, as well as penile penetration of the mouth or oral penetration of the vagina, may be categorized as non-penetrative sex. Oral sex may also be considered outercourse solely because it is not vaginal or anal intercourse.
The words penetration and penetrative may be restricted to penile-vaginal penetration, and, in this way, the definition of outercourse additionally includes penetrative anal sex, with the term outercourse used to contrast the term sexual intercourse as vaginal sex. Definitions restricting the terms non-penetrative sex and outercourse to whether penile penetration has occurred, or to non-penetrative sexual acts that do not involve exchanges of potentially infectious body fluids, also exist.
The term heavy petting covers a broad range of foreplay activities, typically involving some genital stimulation, but not the direct act of penetrative sexual intercourse.

Frottage

Frottage is the general term for the act of rubbing any part of the body, including the buttocks, the breasts, abdomen, thighs, feet, hands, legs and sexual organs against the sexual organ of another person; this is done whether naked or clothed and is more commonly known as dry humping or dry sex. When frottage includes genital-genital rubbing, it is sometimes called genito-genital or GG rubbing.
Couples may engage in frottage as a form of foreplay or simply as a method to achieve sexual gratification without the penetrative aspects of vaginal, anal or oral sex, which may also be their personal way of preserving virginity or their way of practicing safer sex. Often, young people will engage in frottage as an earlier stage of sexual intimacy before their idea of more explicit sexual contact is defined.
Other terms associated with frottage are:
  • Princeton rub, Ivy League rub, and so on are slang terms referring to male-male frot or intercrural sex or both, presumably surviving from the days when these colleges only admitted men. W. H. Auden was proud of having been the first person to use the terms Princeton rub and Princeton first-year in print.
  • The term frottage derives from the French verb frotter. Three terms derive from frotter. These include frottage, the sexual act involving rubbing; frot, the sexual act that refers exclusively to male-male genital rubbing without penetration ; and frotteurism, a paraphilia involving obsession with frottage or performing frottage non-consensually ; this was once called "frottage", but the usage is no longer acceptable.

    Manual sex

Manual sex involves the use of one's hands or fingers to stimulate the genitals of another person. Types of manual sex include the handjob and fingering. Manually stimulating another person's anus is also included.
Manual sex may be used as foreplay or as a physically intimate act in its own right. It might result in one partner achieving orgasm. If no bodily fluids are exchanged, it is considered safe sex, and greatly reduces the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections.

Mutual masturbation

Mutual masturbation usually involves two or more people who either simultaneously masturbate or perform manual sex on each other. This may be done in situations where the participants do not feel ready, physically able, socially at liberty, or willing to engage in any penetrative sex act, or a particular penetrative sex act, but still wish to engage in a mutual sexual activity.
Mutual masturbation may be used as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, to preserve virginity or to prevent pregnancy.
In partnered manual genital stroking to reach orgasm or expanded orgasm, both people focus on creating and experiencing an orgasm in one person. Typically, one person lies down pantless, while their partner sits alongside. The partner who is sitting uses their hands and fingers to slowly stroke the penis or clitoris and other genitals of the partner. Expanded orgasm as a mutual masturbation technique reportedly creates orgasm experiences more intense and extensive than what can be described as, or included in the definition of, a regular orgasm. It includes a range of sensations that include orgasms that are full-bodied, and orgasms that last from a few minutes to many hours.

Exclusively non-penetrative

Non-penetrative sex may sometimes be divided into acts that are exclusively non-penetrative and those that are not. Exclusively non-penetrative sexual acts include:
  • Bagpiping: when the penis is inserted in the other person's armpit.
  • Bundling: a courtship tradition in some Christian communities that was opposed by the religious right and has largely died out. The two young people were each in a sack tied up at the neck, and put in a bed together for the night.
  • Erotic massage: rubbing of the body to create pleasure and relaxation. This can be done between two or more people of any gender and sexual orientation. It can involve the use of oils or just the individual's hands. It is also known as sensual massage.
  • Footjob: using the feet to stimulate a partner's genitals. The sexual rubbing may involve stroking to orgasm. For some individuals the practice may be an aspect of a foot fetish.
  • Frot: act of genital-genital rubbing between males.
  • Handjob: the manual sexual stimulation of another person's penis.
  • Intercrural sex: when the penis is stimulated by placing it between another individual's thighs. Lubrication may be used to allow the penis to move more freely between the thighs.
  • Intergluteal sex: stimulation of the penis using the buttocks. It differs from anal sex because no penetration of the anus occurs. The penis is stimulated by moving between the buttocks.
  • Kissing: the touching of one person's lips against another person's can be regarded as a sexual act, especially deep kissing where one person inserts their tongue into the partner's mouth. Kissing may also be done on other parts of the body and is commonly a part of foreplay.
  • Mammary intercourse: the stimulation of the penis by placing the penis between the breasts and moving the penis up and down to simulate penetration and to create pleasure.
  • Nipple stimulation: when one partner caresses the nipples of their partner. Any individual can participate in this act and it can be done in pairs or groups. This can lead to orgasm for the receiving partner.
  • Tribadism: a form of lesbian sex where women rub genitalia against each other.

    Non-exclusively non-penetrative

  • Fingering: stimulation of another person's vagina, vulva, clitoris in particular, or anus, with the fingers.
  • Oral sex: stimulation of the genitals using the mouth and throat. It is known as fellatio when the act is performed on a penis, and cunnilingus when performed on a vulva. A specific type of oral sex, anilingus, is the stimulation of the anus using the mouth.
  • Stimulation using a vibrator: a partner or group of individuals may stimulate each other's genitals using a vibrator.
  • BDSM: Many BDSM activities do not involve penetration.

    Hookup culture

In many developed countries, there is a trend where young individuals engage in casual sex, also known as a hookup. This phenomenon has been termed hookup culture. The term hookup in this context loosely means participating in some type of sexual activity with another individual or group of individuals outside of a romantic relationship.
Hooking up may be in the form of a one-night stand, where the sex acts are contained within a single situation or the individuals may "hook up" on a more consistent basis. In addition, hooking up can mean different things to different people. Some individuals believe a hookup is "anything but intercourse", which would include only non-penetrative sex acts. Birth control may not be utilized if the individuals are not planning on engaging in a sex act. Using birth control and ensuring all individuals present understand that the activity is a hookup with no other expectations can maximize benefits while minimizing risk. The benefits of sex acts are various, and if an individual is concerned about sexual infections or pregnancy, non-penetrative sex acts can be sufficient in preventing the risks, and offer a wide variety of options to choose from.